Through my work with Ryan over the past few months, I have begun to make what I consider to be revolutionary changes in my relationships, both with myself and with my partner. Setting aside private time to get more in touch with my own body and desires has led me to become more present and comfortable communicating them to my partner. As a result I have stopped faking orgasms and started asking for what I actually want and need in order to allow it to happen organically- AND IT DOES! What I am really seeing is that talking about things is not only vital for a deep and meaningful connection, but more significantly, it’s NEVER AS SCARY AS I THINK it’s going to be. In fact, it has deepened my emotional and physical intimacy immensely. I have never felt safer and the sex has never been hotter. Yes, honesty and communication are SEXY.”
-W., age 27
Suddenly sexual touch and sharing pleasure with someone else is alive and thriving within me. I have, as everyone does, an extremely complicated relationship to my body and to vulnerably, fully and intimately sharing my body with another human. Working with Ryan was like shining a light into hidden corners of my mind and, voila, so much to see! They gave me a simple exercise to do a few times a week, and a lot to think about. My next sexual experience was the most intense, most wonderful, most true I had ever had in my entire life. It was mind-blowing, glorious, and life-changing. I am grateful for Ryan’s expertise and care. They listen deeply, and have so much of their own experience to offer – it isn’t just theoretical for Ryan. I am looking forward to continuing my sessions, and I recommend work with Ryan to anyone who wants to understand themselves better.
-M., age 31
Working with Ryan has been an immensely positive experience. Their compassion and understanding creates a space where open and honest dialogue can take place without judgement or pressure. As a result, my partner and my relationship has gone through a metamorphosis that would have been impossible without Ryan’s thoughtful guidance. Their ability to listen and really hear what is being communicated helped us listen to and really hear each other. This fostered a genuine, authentic, connection that lead to a deeper understanding of our wants and needs, both as a couple and as individuals. We’ve both been positively transformed through our coaching experience with Ryan and are so grateful for the space to share, learn and grow in this process.
-E. + B., both age 33
We were put in touch with Ryan after hitting a painful patch while opening our marriage. Their steady and gentle work with us allowed us to find a space of true communication about what was hurtful and what felt delicious about our relationship. They helped us discover crucial tools that have allowed us to keep exploring polyamory with a better arsenal to support and and love each other as we learn about our relationships and each other.
-K. + T., ages 37 + 38
Ryan met me where I’m at with no judgement and gave me wonderful perspective. All the things that I was afraid to admit, they already knew as “things that happen” and showed me a way through that made logical sense. When feeling emotionally stuck, it is a priceless asset to have someone like Ryan come in and light way out.
-M., age 39
We truly believe that our marriage would have failed if not for Ryan’s guidance. We came to wanting to open up our sex life and our communication about our sex life (and wow, did we ever get to open that up and expand our capacity for pleasure tenfold!) but moreover, we got to go even deeper and more comprehensively than we could have imagined. Sexuality from a place of wholeness is a POWERFUL way to operate, and I am grateful every day that we reached out to Ryan.
-R. + G., ages 34 + 38
Ryan has provided me with the nurturing and informative voice on sex and sexuality that I thought surely existed, but couldn’t seem to find. They are the antidote to the cultural poison surrounding these issues and I feel, as a result of our sessions so far, that my brain is unlocking, I am less fearful, and I am more in love with my sex life.
-E., age 26
I had all but given up on my own capacity to experience sexual pleasure. For many years, I felt like I could either be a sexual person OR a person who loves. Physically, this meant that I could rarely get and stay hard when with a partner, or if I did manage to be erect, I would cum almost instantly. Ryan helped me understand what was underneath these physical hurdles. For me, it was this disconnect between being someone who has sex and someone who loves. They compassionately guided me to realizing this on my own. And I loved the physical explorations they gave me, along with extensive follow-up notes, to explore between sessions! I love their frame of the heart/cock or heart/clit connection, and self love practice is deeply important. In spending time and attention with those things, I’ve been able to bring what I am learning into sex with my partner. Run, do not walk, to work with Ryan. I wish I had reached out much sooner than I did. My time with them has been truly transformative for me, in and out of the bedroom!
-M., age 43
Ryan has an amazing capacity to make you feel like you’re the only person they’ve ever seen, loved, and listened to, even if you just met them on the street. Their deep listening & insightful reflections not only created an incredibly safe environment for me to explore my thoughts and feelings, but stayed with me for weeks afterwards and still continue to shift my perception about my own “relationship to relationships.” Ryan’s profound empathy and extensive knowledge about sex, dating, love, and relationships in all forms and dynamics make each minute feel valuable as they share their extensive wisdom and unlock your own, one gentle node at a time.
-L., age 29
Ryan’s coaching was amazing: they helped me analyze problems I had been turning over in my mind for years with fresh insight and new perspectives. Their thoughtfulness and empathy anchors their counseling and made me feel supported as we worked through different topics. I feel heartened by our work together, and have come out with both more compassion and a sharper insight into how to make my relationships work.
-K., age 35
Ryan is an incredible coach. Their open mind, her patience, her enthusiasm, Their holistic vision of humanity, sexuality, community, ethics, etc. all make her profoundly approachable. Their sharp, probing questions made me think in new ways and approach the same old problems with a fresh eye and a recharged heart.
-W., age 33
Ryan is a love, sex, and relationships grandmaster and the most emotionally intelligent person I know. Cities should install copies of them in public parks, dispensing advice to passersby. If they did, I’m convinced that everyone would be twenty percent happier. And having fifty percent more amazing sex.
-D., age 34